Invicta FC 29 ‘Kaufman vs. Lehner’ full results


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Invicta FC 29 was back last night at the Scottish Rite Temple in Kansas City, headlined by Sarah Kaufman and Katharina Lehner who battled it out to see who would become the Invicta FC Bantamweight champion.

Results:

Bantamweight Main Event – Vacant Bantamweight Title
Sarah Kaufman defeats Katharina Lehner via submission (RNC) – Round 3, 4:30 to become the new Invicta FC Bantamweight Champion

Catchweight Bout (139.6 lbs)
Pannie Kianzad defeats Bianca Daimoni via UD (30-27 x 3)

Catchweight Bout (126.3 lbs)
Pearl Gonzalez defeats Barbara Acioly via submission (armbar) – Round 1, 1:30

Bantamweight Bout
Marciea Allen defeats Julia Avila via TKO (injury) – Round 1, 0:49

Flyweight Bout
Liz Tracy defeats Cheri Muraski  via UD (29-28, 30-27 x 2)

Bantamweight Bout
Lisa Spangler defeats Sarah Kleczka via UD (29-28 x 3)

Featherweight Bout
Macy Chiasson defeats Allison Schmidt via UD (30-27 x 3)

Strawweight Bout
Helen Peralta defeats Cheyanne Vlismas via UD (30-27, 29-28 x 2)

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Invicta FC 11 Full Weigh In Results


Invicta FC will hold their eleventh event tonight, Friday February, 27th at the Shrine Expo Hall, Los Angeles, where Cris Cyborg takes on Charmaine Tweet in the Main Event.

Invicta announced earlier in the week, that their first four fights will sream for free on youtube, with the whole card streaming on UFC Fight Pass.

First of all it was time for all the female athletes to step onto the scales!

You can watch the full weigh-ins here.

 

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Cris Justino (144.5 lbs) vs Charmaine Tweet (144.8 lbs)

Alexa Grasso (115 lbs) vs Mizuki Inoue (115.25 lbs)

DeAnna Bennett (116 lbs)* vs Norma Rueda Center (116.8 lbs)**

* Bennett was 0.2 pounds off on the first attempt but made weight on the second will be fined 10% of her purse.

** Center decided not to drop the 0.8 pounds and will forefeit 25% of her purse

Irene Aldana (135 lbs) vs Colleen Schneider (135.33 lbs)

Jamie Moyle (115.5 lbs) vs J.J. Aldrich (115.6 lbs)

Amy Montenegro (115.6 lbs) vs. Brianna VanBuren (115.5 lbs)

Christine Stanley (125.5 lbs) vs Laura Salazar (128.9 lbs) *

* California State Athletic Commission wouldn’t allow Salazar to cut any more weight. Fined 25% of her purse.

Aspen Ladd (125.5 lbs) vs Ana Carolina Vidal (125.75 lbs)

 

Photo Credit: Ester Lin/InivctaFC

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Invicta FC announce New Match Maker!


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Invicta FC president,  Shannon Knapp, has announced that long time fight veteran Julie Kedzie will be their new Match Maker.

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Kedzie, who holds an impressive fight record of (16-11,) before being signed to The UFC (0-2) within The UFC , announced her retirement, after her  Split Decision defeat to Bethe Correia on December 7th 2013.  Julie is no stranger to working with Shannon Knapp and Invicta, as she also commentates and does the pre-fight Interviews with the fighters. It is the start of a beautiful relationship, of a fast paced, growing company.

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Good luck to Shannon and Julie, as Invicta are making all the right moves  going forward.

Part 2 Introducing …The Inspiring Lauren Murphy


Here is part 2 of the in-depth interview with the Inspiring Lauren Murphy where we talk about finding Jiu Jitsu, MMA, New Addictions, The love of her life, Invicta, UFC and the future….

After taking you right to the beginning in part 1, here in part 2 we start off where Lauren is just about to find a new addiction …

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EB.You didn’t grow up playing any sports bar the odd few Karate lessons. It was often said how much of a natural you are and how strong you are in the sport. How did it feel when people started believing in you?

LM. When I first said I wanted to fight and started going to MMA classes, they really were not that accepting of me. The guys that were there at the time were prima donnas, they didn’t really want to take any time with me. After a few months, my coach Pat Applegate took over the MMA team. He treated everybody as equal. That’s why I’m so ‘ride or die’ with Pat, because he was the first guy to come along and believe in me and make me work hard. He always told me, “If you work hard, you can achieve anything”. It didn’t matter to him that I was a female, he didn’t care if I was any good, he just made sure that I worked hard, and because of that, now I have this great work ethic. At first, the guys would make comments… just girl comments in general, say degrading things, really shitty stuff…. Pat put an end to all of that, he didn’t put up with any of that in his classes at all. He made a really great team out of all new guys. All those assholes left, because they didn’t want to stick around anymore, if they couldn’t be the centre of attention and catered to. Everyone who stuck around with Pat worked real hard, became a team and family.


EB. It was from this point that you started to believe, not only you could be an athlete but an elite athlete also, so training became your new ‘addiction’.   You made your Pro debut on June 9th 2010 against Kloiah Wayland which last 17seconds and you won via TKO (Punches), how did that feel to know all that self-belief  had finally paid off?

LM. It was just a relief as you always want to win your first fight. I didn’t want to be that guy that is 0-1 you know, so when I went out there to fight I remember being so terrified. I really looked up to Cris Cyborg  at the time (and I still do), she was my favourite athlete, so I thought, “I’m just going to do what she does, and start throwing punches and never stop”, and it was so sloppy and of course didn’t look anything like Cyborg (laughs). I was just super out there, mostly, I was a lot bigger than that girl and just frantic, so it was a crappy fight but I was glad to win.

EB. From then on you had another 4 fights, picking up wins via TKO (Punches) including a brutal 1st round TKO (Elbows) against Jennifer Scott on Legacy Fighting Championship 18, that in itself is an impressive CV and none of those fights made it too the 3rd round, how did that feel?

LM. I liked it. I didn’t really realize I had a record like that until after I fought Jennifer Scott, and people were talking about how none of my fights had gone past the 2nd round. I was like, “Oh… I guess they haven’t… uh that’s pretty cool”(smiles),  but to me, I knew I had fought some pretty tough girls but I hadn’t fought anybody known, so I was wondering how I would do against more experienced competition.

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EB. On April 5th you faced the Veteran Katlin Young on 3 weeks short notice for the all-female promotion Invicta FC. This was to be your biggest test to date for yourself; what prompted you to decide to take this opportunity?

LM. I had just gotten home from the Jennifer Scott fight, and Janet Martin had called me saying to stay ready, just in case there were any injuries on that card. I said, “Okay, well I hope there are no injuries because they are all beasts!” (laughs) But there was an injury with Amanda Nunes, so they asked, ‘Do you want to fight Kaitlin Young?’ Of course I was scared, but it was so weird…There was something just telling me to take this fight, it was almost as if someone was sitting right next to me saying in my ear ‘take this fight’. Normally my coaches are very anti-short notice fights, they don’t like them at all, but in this case we just took it. I don’t know why, I just had a feeling it was going to work out. My manager thought it was a good idea. We knew I could win it if I worked real hard and kept my mind clear. I got the call and left the next day. I had a two week training camp. A week before the fight you’re supposed to slow down, but I was in real good shape, it wasn’t like I had just got off the couch, so it was all good.
EB. You won the fight via UD, the first of your career to of gone the distance and a great battle by both, how did it feel getting your hand raised for the first time in that way in your career?

LM. I was kind of relieved because everybody else wondered if my cardio was going to be any good, and I wondered the same thing. What really made that fight memorable for me was that Kaitlin won the 1st round, handily. I mean, she had me mounted, she took my back, she had me in all these positions you know, and nobody had really ever done that to me before. I had never been in such a shitty position before in a fight, and it was nice to know I can fight through that, and I’m not going to mentally break. It was a really good experience for me to lose the first round and come back and win the next two.

EB. Next was Sarah D’Alelio who was #9 in the unified women’s MMA rankings and you won again via UD in another tough challenge for you but you rose to it. How is it working with a great partnership with Invicta FC? Can you tell me what it is like fighting for a great organisation; Shannon Knapp and former Match Maker Janet Martin?

LM. They’re awesome! I have never fought for a promotion that have looked after their fighters so well. Shannon Knapp, you can just tell she has the best interest in the fighters. She loves her athletes, and she treats all of us with so much respect. A lot of times with MMA, people will try and screw you over: Promoters looking out for themselves, managers looking out for themselves, even sponsors try to get free advertising and get you to do stuff for them for free, and then try not to pay you. You always have to watch your back. You don’t really have many friends in MMA unless it’s your own team, but Shannon is not like that at all, she really wants the best for all of us. She wants us to succeed, and she believes in all of us equally. She does not care about making stars, she gives us all challenging fair fights. She’s not trying to necessary to build anyone up, she lets us build ourselves up.

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EB. Tell me about Joe; How Joe proposed to you; The whole story.

LM. Joe and I met at Gracie Barra in Alaska, in 2010. I was getting ready for my second fight, and one of his first days at MMA practice, we ended up sparring together. He had wrestled for a long time, but had very little striking experience, and I had never wrestled once in my life, all I had ever done really was box for a few months and done jiu jitsu. So he was in his wrestler’s stance the whole time we were sparring, and was trying to shoot on me, because our coach wanted me to learn to sprawl, I think. I didn’t know what the hell he was doing, because I’d never seen anyone wrestle before. I ended up poking him in the eye, which gave him a black eye. I felt horrible! We’ve been friends ever since, (Smiling)
We’d hang out a lot with the team and go out after practice with everyone to eat, or out on the weekends. I partied a lot with some of the other guys and Joe would kind of take care of all of us, drive us around, make sure we got home safe, all that. We talked a lot and always had a great time. He’s hilarious and sweet and honest and kind, he was very responsible and kind of the guy everyone looked up to. I just fell in love with him. At some point he started falling for me too, the way soul mates do. I was partying a lot back then, basically drinking my life away, and I knew if I wanted to be with a guy like him, I had to clean up my act. So I did. I changed my evil ways, quit drinking and taking pills, and started to try to take my life seriously. And when I did that, I think that’s when things really took off for us. When he was sent to Florida with the Air Force, I moved with him. I couldn’t imagine living my life without him. So we started this life in Florida together and I think we just knew we were meant for each other.
He proposed to me after Invicta 6, at the post fight presser. It was so surreal. I had Cyborg sitting next to me (she’s always been one of my favourite fighters), Tito Ortiz is there, I had just won a war with the toughest opponent of my fight career, and the man of my dreams is proposing to me, very publicly and very romantically. It was very….Joe. Of course he would propose in a way that made not just me, but pretty much everyone in the room melt. That’s one of the things I love about him so much.
We were married on the beach in a small ceremony. It was pretty spur of the moment. He proposed, we went home, and a day or two later, we both figured, “why wait?” We knew we wanted to be married. And there’s a beach maybe 30 minutes away from our house that we both really love, it’s a great beach with a fun little restaurant nearby. So we went there and just had a few friends and a great time. It was very simple and very perfect. And I am now the happiest woman on the planet.

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EB. Did you consider going for the TUF 18 try outs when you heard they were having females in the 135llb division?

LM. I did for a minute. It sounded very appealing, the kind of insta-fame that comes with doing a show like that. But after talking to my manager and coaches, we decided it wouldn’t be best for me or my career. I love my coaches and my team; we are all very tight knit. I don’t want to go anywhere else or train under anyone else. My team loves me too, and we figured I could make more progress as a fighter much faster if I stayed with my team, than if I went to TUF try outs.

EB. If so, did you discuss this with Shannon Knapp at all and what was her response? or are you contractually obliged by Invicta so you could not go and try out (although Jessamyn Duke tried out) If that was the case how did you personally feel as the UFC is seen as a big opportunity and I would imagine it is where any fighter would want to be especially now that there is a 135lb division?

LM. My manager and I did talk to Shannon and Janet about it. Shannon released a statement saying anyone from Invicta could go try out- Raquel Pennington was also signed to Invicta, I believe, as were a few other girls, Shayna Baszler as well as Jessamyn Duke. Shannon has always been awesome like that- she wants to see us succeed and get a lot of opportunities to further our careers. She would never stand in the way of anyone trying to move on to something huge like the UFC. I think some fighters are so happy in Invicta; they have turned down UFC offers. It doesn’t surprise me at all. Invicta treats us like queens.

EB. How are you feeling about facing Miriam ‘The Queen of Mean’ Nakamoto for the Invicta FC Bantamweight Title?

LM. I am excited about it. Of course I am nervous, but most days I just feel very excited. It’s awesome to compete with one of the best.
It’s amazing, I mean who would of thought, I just took a fight for the fun of it back in 2010 and I wasn’t going to do anything with it, now here I am fighting for one of the biggest organisations in the world for a title shot its crazy, Miriam is a super tough girl, and I’ve never been more afraid of an opponent than I am of her, she is really brining a lot of weapons to this fight that I am going to have to be on my very best A game if I’m to win this fight.

EB. Do you know a lot about your opponent or is it a case that you concentrate on your fight and game plan and your teams does the ‘research work’ on your opponent or are you a fighter that likes to study their opponent themselves?

LM. I do watch tape on my opponent, usually with my coaches. We talk about what we see, and what and why they do what they do, what they’re good at, where they are weak, etc. I watch it mostly so I can visualize what it will be like to fight her, so when I get in the cage, it’s like I’ve already fought her a thousand times. My coaches watch and analyse and then tell me what to do.

EB. How are you expecting this fight to go?

I don’t really care where the fight goes honestly. I just like to fight, go out there have a good time, and hopefully come out with the win. Miriam has some really good training partners, coming from a great camp there isn’t going to be that many holes in her game for me to exploit but I’m just going to have to go out there and see who is better on the night.

EB. Me being a fan of the series ‘Fight Girls back in 2009 I saw Miriam on that TV show back then; did you watch this series which also featured new Invicta signee Felice Herrig at all? If so is this something you would like to do as I recall Shannon Knapp stated that she will be doing her own version of a reality show ‘Invicta behind the scenes, training etc.’?

LM. I haven’t watched that show, but ever since it was agreed that Miriam and I would fight, people keep bringing it up. I would watch it but I don’t really have enough time in camp to watch TV shows. I’d be down for a reality show, depending on what they wanted. I have heard of shows that really screwed over the participants, especially where it concerns females, but I know Shannon Knapp wouldn’t do that.

EB. It is a great opportunity to be fighting for Invicta’s first ever Bantamweight title on December 7th, how much does this mean to you after everything, you, as a person has been through?

LM. It’s an honour, and it’s very humbling. I never thought I would be here. That’s a very surreal feeling. I also think, when people talk about what I’ve been through….well, there are people out there that have been through far worse, and done far more with their lives than I have, so I try to keep all that in perspective.

EB. The future … is that to reach the UFC and fight for the UFC? Is that your ultimate goal now that you know you are good enough and people believe in you?

LM. My ultimate goal is to be the best I can be every day. I do think that would involve taking my fight career as far as I can in the time I have. If that includes the UFC, then that’s great. Mostly I believe really strongly that God has a plan for me, and I really just want to be a part of it. Whatever he has laid out for me, I’m all for it. That may mean the UFC, and it may not. I guess only time will tell.

EB. You went back to school to re-educate yourself, what did you study in? What was your chosen career?

I went to nursing school for a long time. I got kicked out for not showing up, because I was in jail one morning. So that was lame. I eventually decided to go back, but I don’t think nursing appeals to me so much. I want to work with athletes. I love the gym atmosphere and family setting, the close-knit relationships, and the changes you see happen in a gym. So I want to spend my career in a place like that, if possible. So I am back in school now trying to complete a Bachelor’s Degree in exercise science. I chose it because when I transferred my credits from nursing school, it was the degree I was closest to.

EB. How do you feel about the news of Janet Martin, as she was a big part of Invicta and how far WMMA has come today within the promotion Invicta, and females being highlighted in WMMA?

LM. I am sad for Janet. I don’t know the whole story, or what happened, really, so I can’t say too much. I can say that, I have been the person before that has done terrible things to good people, and that I did it because I was sick in my soul and had lost my way. So on a good day I have compassion for people that are just like I was: sick in their souls and doing shitty things to people who don’t deserve it. When people are happy and healthy and able to love, they generally don’t act like that towards others. So I hope Janet finds her way.

This Interview took place before Lauren’s fight with Miriam Nakamoto which was on December 7th 2013.
Lauren defeated Miriam in the 4th round via T.K.O.

Miriam suffered a knee injury late in the 3rd round, as a result of Lauren’s takedown, but continued on and came out for the 4th round before her knee gave out at 0.23 seconds of the 4th round.
Lauren Murphy is now Invicta’s first ever inaugural Bantamweight Title Belt Holder.

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If you missed any of the awesome fights from Invicta 7 including Lauren’s below is the full link:
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Introducing … The Inspiring Lauren Murphy a true fighter in every sense of the word (Part 1)


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They say ‘two wrongs don’t make a right’ but in this case I beg to differ…..

In an special 2-part Interview, over the last 8 weeks I have been working very closely with  MMA athlete Lauren Murphy (Taylor) on an Exclusive Interview about her life.  Lauren has been very ‘open’ and ‘brutally honest’ on the path that she grew up on and how Drink and Drugs  took a hold of her young life, how a chance meeting with the sport Jiu Jitsu changed everything for her.

The Invicta FC Bantamweight  has her biggest test to date on December 7th (tonight) when she takes on Miriam Nakamoto for the Bantamweight Belt;  but first I take you back to when Lauren was growing up and what shaped her for the ‘Fighter’ she became today…

“I believe fighting can be such selfish work, and MMA can be so selfish, so it’s nice to hear that people can get something out of me fighting. I never get enough of hearing people say that I am inspiring.”   Lauren Murphy 

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You grew up in a small town called Eagle River in Alaska, what was it like growing up there for you?

I hated it! I hated being from a small town. I always wanted to part of all the action in a big city and all the cool stuff that I imagined was going on there: More people, more concerts, more crazy stuff happening; I travelled as a kid with my family, we went places like Hawaii, and San Francisco. I have family in Stockton, California, and we would go there sometimes. We would go to these cities and there would be stores like we did not have in Alaska, the parks were way cooler, there were more activities, a LOT more people… then I would go home to my small little town and I did not like it, I always wanted to be somewhere else, anywhere but in that small town.

How was your childhood, growing up?

There were definitely some times that I went through that I hope my son will never have to go through; but there were really good times too, and I really want to make that clear, we had a lot of good times,  there were some parts of it that were not ‘normal’,  but what is normal? Looking back now that I am older, we had good times, we had bad times. In a lot of ways I was really blessed as a kid, but I could not see that, I don’t know why. Looking back now my parents did the best that they could with what they had, and they really tried their best to raise me right. But they both drank a lot and that can really f**k you up- it just makes you do weird things and sometimes awful things, and sometimes we saw that as kids: we saw our parents do really shitty things to each other and it was scary, it can be terrifying for children to see that kind of stuff. So it definitely shapes the way that I think, and made me who I am for sure, but I need to make it real clear to you that we had some real good times when I was growing up too and my parents gave me what they could.

My dad died when I was 11 and that was pretty terrible. I was a daddy’s girl. Me and my dad were buds, we were best friends. I wanted to be just like him. When he passed away it broke my heart, I mean, it broke my heart.

The lead up to your involvement into drink and drugs at an early age, can you pinpoint as to why or maybe you went down this route?

Even if my upbringing had been perfect, even if my parents had done everything right, I probably would still have an addict like personality. I really believe that no matter what, I was born this way, and if I were to go start drinking right now, I would drink alcoholically, like a maniac. And right now, my life is the best it’s ever been, and I’m really happy with the way things are; So, you see? what goes on outside of me doesn’t make a difference on the way that I drink; it’s the way I process alcohol and drugs even, it is just different from that of a normal person; I’ve met people that can do cocaine like once or twice and be like “eh”, and not really care about it and never do it again because it doesn’t do anything for them. For me, any drug or any substance that makes me feel different makes me want to do it all the time, so maybe the way I grew up may have shaped me a little bit but no matter what I still would have done drugs and drank like crazy.

I think most teenagers come across drink and drugs in their teenage life at some point, you’re just going to experiment with stuff, they are going to try and piss their parents off, do things different, be rebellious. For me though, it wasn’t just good enough to do it a little bit. I loved it, I loved the lifestyle, I loved the way it made me feel. I wanted to do it all the time. To me it was something I was good at, something that made me feel good.

What kind of drugs were you talking about here?

Living in a small town I would do whatever, as it came in waves. I definitely went through periods where I would do cocaine for awhile, like a couple of months, then somebody would have a bunch of acid, so we would take acid for a couple of months, then maybe it was ecstasy for a while. Not every day or anything, just whatever was around. In a small town, stuff comes in waves; everything is not available all the time; in a small town you have to know people, you have to know what’s around and what’s coming in, then get a hold of it while you can, although I started off with cannabis and alcohol in my teenage years.

It appears you became pretty dependant on drugs and alcohol at an impressionable age, how were you managing to fund such an addiction at an early age?

I had some shitty jobs, I worked lame jobs around town and stuff. I don’t think I really stole too much. I would ask mom for money sometimes, and say I needed to go shopping  but then I would go get high;  mostly I think I had a job from about the ages of 14/15. I worked at fast food restaurants, or I would babysit, or anything I could get around town. I would do odd jobs.  I always found a way to make money. Then I started selling cigarettes to the kids at school, and that was the first time ever I started ‘making money’. I also think I had a boyfriend back then and he would go buy a bunch of cigarettes for me and I would go sell them to all the kids at school, I thought I so cool at the time, you know, like you do (laughs).

A ‘way of life’ to you was a ‘criminal type’ later in life to fund the habit that in essence took hold of you; what kind of things did you get up to?

From the ages of 14-17 I didn’t do too much ‘bad’, I went out and earned most of my money, I liked to drink and get high, but we didn’t go out and really hurt anybody. I would shoplift sometimes or it would be stupid ‘petty crimes’, but I would never really hurt anybody. It was when I got older, maybe 17/18/19, I started getting really crazy, breaking into places and such. There was potential for people to get seriously hurt from some of the stuff we were doing, there was potential for ourselves to get hurt also and I think that is when things started kicking in. The older I got, the more daring I got, the more willing I got to do stupid crap with stupid people. We would just go do crazy stuff, mostly I would steal stuff, I stole a lot of stuff in that time period. I can’t even tell you how much it was but later on in life I had to make a lot of amends, I had to make it right in a lot of ways. Back then, I would lie to people, cheat and steal, try and rip people off…that was the way we all kind of lived. When you’re doing drugs, everyone is trying to f**k everyone else; you’re going to sell shitty dope to people; you’re going to take their money and not give them anything for it; you’re going to shoplift all kinds of stuff from stores or out of peoples houses or whatever, sometimes some of the people I was with they would go get money by robbing people or whatever, and I would be okay with it. To me that was okay. It was okay to lie, cheat, and steal, I did all those things, with really no remorse. Looking back on it now, I feel so lucky. The amount of people now who carry guns and shoot people over nothing, you can only imagine if they catch someone who is actually wronging them. I’m really blessed to be alive. I don’t even know how many close calls there were, or even all the times we would get crazy and get into a vehicle and be high or drunk or something, and be driving around. It was just crazy.

Your real ‘addiction’ became when you were left a huge lump sum of monies at the age of 18, can you talk me through this?

I lived at home till I was 16/17 then I moved out. My dad died when I was 11. He was killed in a plane crash and there was a law suit. The company was charged with a wrongful death suit, and there was a settlement. Out of that money I was given a lump sum when I was 18 years old and I just went crazy. That was where a lot of the drugs and alcohol I did came from. I blew this huge sum of money I got. I had no responsibility really. I had my son, but he was just an infant and I was a young dumb kid so, the baby would go stay with my mom a lot. My mom lived right down the road, and she took really good care of him, while I went out and partied my face off. She took care of him more than she should have, but because of it, he gets to have a really cool relationship with his grandma. They have a very special, close relationship.

All the while whilst you were ‘living this lifestyle’ did your mum not suspect any abnormal behaviour? Or were they dealing with their own issues at the time?

My mom knew that I was in a lot of trouble and she knew that I was doing a lot of drugs. Maybe she wasn’t aware the extent of it all, but she knew it wasn’t good. She knew that I was living a shitty lifestyle and that’s part of the reason she took care of my son so much. I think she didn’t want him to be in that environment, for one thing, and for another, she has this belief that- and I think this is true too- you can’t make somebody else straighten up. So she was like, “well, stay safe, and I love you and I’m going to let you do whatever you need to do, then whenever you’re ready to get clean and sober you know where I’m at.” That was always her attitude, she would go to meetings a lot and I would go with her sometimes, I got to know everybody there. I would go introduce myself and stuff and she was always willing to bring me with her and she more led by example, she didn’t really tell me she just showed me that you could live clean and sober and have a good life.

There were more than one occasions where you classed yourself as having  ‘overdosed’ can you tell me about just one of these incidents?

One time we were doing cocaine, in my truck in a parking lot. It was the very last of it, I didn’t have any more drugs and I didn’t have anywhere to go. I was homeless at the time, staying in my truck. I didn’t have any friends left or anything. I was a mess. There was a girl with me (my dealer), we were using needles, shooting it up, and I did the last of what I had and I had a seizure. I remember feeling like I couldn’t really breathe, and I wanted some air so badly, then I don’t remember anything after that. I woke up and I was looking at this girl that was with me, and she was looking at me. I didn’t understand what had happened, I was like, “What was you looking at? Stop!” I was angry for some reason. She said, “You just had a seizure!” I was like, “You’re kidding me, I had a seizure?” I couldn’t believe it. She said, “Yeah, you hit your head on the horn, you made a bunch of noise and everything, are you ok?” I said, “I guess so”. She said I needed to drive her home, so I drove her home, about 30 miles away. Looking back now, that is just crazy. I was scared, so I went to a friend’s house, and I sat down with them and said “Look, I had a seizure this afternoon and I ‘overdosed’ and I don’t really know what to do.” They said I needed to go to the hospital, and they called an ambulance and my mom. My mom met me at the hospital, and she was crying, she had seen stuff like this before when she was drinking and using. She met me at the hospital and I was just laying in this hospital bed, I was dirty, I was tired, I was detoxing, I didn’t have anywhere to go. I had some friends there, but the nurses and the doctors didn’t want anything to do with me, I was just dirty, trashy; It was pathetic. I was pathetic. I said a little prayer, “God, if you get me out of this sane and alive I will never, ever, ever, use drugs again, ever.” And I meant it so much! I was discharged from the hospital that night and I went to my mom’s house and stayed the night there, then got up the next day and I just started getting high again. I could not stop.

After each time, was there a cycle of promising yourself that if you managed to find your way out you wouldn’t touch a drop of alcohol or do drugs again?

I always said, “I will stop tomorrow”, “I will quit tomorrow”…and then tomorrow would come, and then I would say, “Okay just this once”… then I would be off to the races again. I would make lists and write them down, like, tomorrow I’m going to get a job, I’m going to wake up early, I’m going to be a responsible mom, a better friend, I’m going to do all this stuff… and then I would wake up the next day and I would go get high. I didn’t have an excuse or a reason. I knew I shouldn’t, but every day I was going to “quit tomorrow”, for like five years.

At the age of 17 you became a mum to your beautiful son Max, how did you cope becoming a mum so young and dealing with your addictions?

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The way I dealt with it was I dropped him off at my mom’s house and she took care of him a lot. When I was 17 I thought I knew everything. I thought I was such an adult, I had life all figured out, and nobody could tell me different. I thought I was so grown up. Looking back of course (I’m now 30), I know I was such an idiot, but I did not know that at the time. I thought I knew everything, so if you had asked me when I was 17, to me there was no problem. I thought I had everything under control.

Having a child, some may say, may of gave them the clarity they needed to become clean and sober, was this the case for yourself?

No. I mean, I regret to say that, because people do, but here’s the thing: It should have been enough. Drinking and using like that is such a selfish state of mind, it does not matter who loves you or who you love more than anything on the planet. That was just where I was at that point in time, I knew I needed to get sober at some point but I just didn’t think it was then. When things did get really bad my son stayed with my mom. She really took care of him when things were really out of control, so he wasn’t exposed to that very much. I think also because he was with her so often I almost felt like I didn’t have a child to get sober for. He wasn’t there in front of me so I could just let loose.

When did you and Max reunite as a family?

Well, I had gotten sober at the age of 21. I went to rehab a couple of times. I was in and out of rehab for about a year before I actually got sober. Eventually, I had just had enough of whatever it was, that misery, and I was sick and tired of being sick and tired. I thought “If I don’t stop doing this I am going to die”. I think because I had ‘overdosed’ a couple of times and things had gotten so shitty, a lot of my friends did not want to be around me anymore. I was out of money. I didn’t have anything to my name. I felt like I was too young for this sh*t, I’m f**king 21 years old, I want a life!

So I started going to meetings. Slowly piece by piece I started building my life up again. I got a shitty job, then another shitty job, then I got a pretty good job, I then started going back to school. I started meeting a lot of sober people, and made a lot of friends who were sober.

Max came to live with me when I was 22. I had been sober for around a year at that point I think. It was a learning experience to start with. I was figuring out how to be a mom and Max was of course confused as he was living with my mom, then he came to live with me, and that’s a big change for a kid. We moved around for a little bit from house to house. He’s a good kid and really resilient, thank God. We had a lot of good times and we had some crazy times too as we were trying to get used one another again. He would push the boundaries, try and figure out what was okay and what was not. All kids do, right?

I stayed sober for like 5 years. Max lived with me, and after he started going to school I started drinking again. It never got as bad as it was when I was a kid but it did get pretty bad, and I had to get sober again. So I was sober from 21-25/26 then I was drinking from 26-28.

Do you feel you had a Brother/Sister connection more than a Mother/Son?

I did at first but now I don’t, now I feel like his mom. I think maybe like the first six months or something it was really hard for us both to adjust back to having a mom and son relationship; he didn’t want to listen to me and I didn’t know what to tell him or what to do. I didn’t know what was okay. Now we definitely have a clear idea of what the boundaries are. He is also older now, it’s easier for a 12 year old to understand than a 6year old. He currently lives with his father in Alaska.

In 2009 you enrolled Max (aged 8) in Martial Arts. What prompted you to think of Martial Arts for Max?

I always wished I knew Karate. I wished I had a black belt. There was a girl I went to elementary school with and she was a Taekwondo black belt at a really young age, like by the time we were in 6th grade (11years Old). She had been doing Taekwondo all through school the whole years I had known her. For show and tell she would bring in different coloured belts, she would do all these different presentations, and I thought she was the coolest person ever. I had wished I had done that. So here I am 26 years old, my son is with me, and I’ve got this idea: If I wasn’t able to do martial arts, I’m going to make sure you have an opportunity to. I wanted him to have something better and have a chance but I didn’t know anything. I thought, “Maybe we should do Judo, Taekwondo or Karate.” I didn’t even know what the differences were between any of them, so I just chose one at random and it happened to be a Gracie Barra where they did Jiu Jitsu. I took him there, bought the GI, put him out on the mat and watched him.

When you were younger, you took Karate lessons and enjoyed them, what was the reason for you not going anymore?

I remember going to karate, and we would have to get rides with people. Our neighbours would have to give us rides, as it was too far to walk or take the bus, and we were too young for that anyway. We couldn’t get there ourselves, and a lot of times our parents just wouldn’t take us. They would be drunk, so they couldn’t drive us anywhere. Or we would be at my dad’s house, or in between houses, it was just too difficult. I remember the instructor pulling me aside and saying, “If you don’t show up for more classes I can’t give you your yellow belt”, and I literally burst in to tears. I was so heartbroken because it’s wasn’t my fault, I really wanted to be there. She wouldn’t pass me and I’m not sure, maybe I just perceived her as being super mean about it, but to me I was so humiliated. Looking back I now, it’s pretty easy for a kid to get a yellow belt in karate. They don’t have to do too much, so I don’t know if we were really that lame or if the teacher was being that mean. I wasn’t going long, only maybe a month or so, but I loved going. If I had kept going, who knows, maybe I would have been twice the fighter I am now (laughs).

After you enrolled  Max in Jiu jitsu, how did he take to it?

He didn’t, he thought it was too invasive, too much in your personal space.

You decided to enrol in Jiu Jitsu to try and help Max engage more, with you knowing nothing of the sport, how was this for you?

I thought, “If he’s going to do it, I might as well do it. I may be too old now to go anywhere with it, but at least I will give it a shot.” I loved it, I immediately fell in love with it.

I often think about how funny it is; It wasn’t a big deal but it was a life changing decision.

I’m adding in Lauren’s Thank You’s which are in the second part of this interview which will be up after her fight.

I’d like to thank my husband Joe, I love him so much it hurts. He changed my life and I don’t think I’d be here today without him. I’d also like to thank my family, especially my mum and my son, they have been with me and loved me through thick and thin.

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I have some great sponsors in American Knockout Wear, they help me through my fight camps and have supported me a ton, please go check them out at www.akowear.com and buy yourself a Lauren Murphy T-Shirt. Part of the proceeds go to a really cool charity that supports a program called KIPP (Knowledge Is Power Program). My manager, Paul Stockler for looking out for me and my career, and to my team at Gracie Barra Katy. They are so good to me, especially my coaches Pat, Alex, Pena, and Ted. Thanks also to the guys at Westchase and Draculino’s. 🙂

In part 2 we talk about finding Jiu Jitsu, MMA, New Addictions, Invicta, the love of her life, UFC and the future……

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Special Thanks to Lauren Murphy for her generous time given to myself to allow me to do this interview and all that goes with it 🙂